It was say to be just a few weeks . That was the deal . Your college friend Trisha was blindsided by her husband filing fordivorceand needed a space to crash until she could find her ownapartment . She ’s always been a bit of a hole , but you could n’t twist your back on a friend in need , right ?

Now " a few weeks " has turned into eight months . In the beginning , she at least pretended to surf Craigslist for cheap sublease and part - meter oeuvre , but now she does n’t do much of anything , unless splurge - check Netflix can be consider a full - time job .

You finally work up the cheek to take Trisha to depart . Your home is just too low and your fellow thinks she ’s a hirudinean , eating all your food for thought and never offering a dime for groceries , countenance alone rip . You break the news gently to Trisha ; she has to be out by the end of the month .

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And then she breaks the intelligence to you : Nope , she ’s stay .

" This situation is more common than you might think , " saysJanet Portman , an lawyer and executive editor in chief at legal website Nolo . " And the law of nature is n’t terribly helpful to the people who are doing the kicking out . "

Technically , getting rid of a freeloading acquaintance should be a pushover , says Portman , the co - source with Marcia Stewart of " Every Landlord ’s Legal Guide . " House Edgar Albert Guest who have outstay their welcome have no legal right to stay on at your property . Nobody wants to call the cops on an old college admirer , but a house client who refuses to lead is trespassing , which is a criminal offence .

Guest Vs. Lodger Vs. Tenant

The problem , says Portman , is that police are extremely wary of forcibly hit someone from a property if there ’s even the slightest opportunity that they are n’t a Edgar Guest , but in fact a tenant . Because dragging a renter out of their habitation without a court fiat is squall a " self - help eviction , " which is illegal and the renter can sue both you and the cops . A tenant could also action you if you confuse their property out of the house or transfer the lock .

All your freeloading house client has to say is that they ’ve been avail pay for grocery store or watching your dog when you go by for the weekend ( whether or not it ’s dependable ) . Even if there ’s no pen letting and no rent has changed hands , they can take that they are a renter or a " lodger . " A lodger is someone who take a elbow room in a household where the proprietor also lives . Tenants have their own standalone unit .

If Trisha is staying in your guest way and convinces the cops that she ’s providing even minimal help in exchange for a piazza to stay , she ’s a lodger . And evicting a tenant or a boarder is a polite matter , which mean the bull wo n’t come to it . Congratulations , you ’re a landlord now !

As Trisha ’s unwitting landlord , you have to follow state police for evictions , which can vary . In California , where Portman practice , you first need to give Trisha a " notice to quit . " This is an eviction form which notifies her in writing that she has 30 days to voluntarily leave the property . You ’d probably want to have an attorney draft this document and give you operating instructions on how to serve it . What happen next depends on whether Trisha is a tenant or a lodger .

If a lodger in California refuse to leave after 30 days , they can be kicked out without going through a court - ordered dispossession physical process , because after the 30 - day mark , they are formally trespassing . At this point , you could call the police .

But if atenantwon’t agitate after 30 days , a California landlord has to register a lawsuit in civil court for an constructive eviction , which can take extra weeks to finalize . Assuming you make headway the cause , the bull can then be called in to slay the good - for - nothing from the assumption , forcibly if motive be .

‘They Were Scammers’

All of this cost money . A savvy freeloader might do everything in their power to sustain the appendage to make it as painful and expensive as potential .

" What often happens is the homeowner pays the hombre to leave , " enounce Portman . " And consider it or not , there are people who pull this nonsense . "

Portman remembers when a gas pedigree plosion in San Bruno , California left thousands of multitude dispossessed in 2010 , and bad - hearted neighbors took in the displaced , only to be shocked when months later the deliver menage Edgar Guest refused to leave without a payout . Some wrick out not to be real dupe at all .

" They were swindler , " say Portman .

" I can assure you that most people are not go to require to do that , though , " says Portman . " They have a gut smell that this person is trustworthy , then it go south and that ’s how lawyer make their money . "

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