You know what ’s rude ? Making supporter and family pose through a boring hour - long ceremony where two mass blab out well about their feelings for each other , before they can drink abeer . That ’s uncivil .
We kid , we kid . Wedding ceremonies are not just some useless obstruction in the means of an heart-to-heart streak and buttercream frosting , after all . The ceremony is the setting where actual vows are spoken and — if you ’re golden — where some of America ’s suspect menage videos have been recorded . It may not be exciting for the node , in other words , but most grown - ups have come to the realization that others ' wedding ceremony are not entirely design to ply to them .
Is there ever a metre to skip the ceremony and just go the receipt ? Sure ! If you ’re not invited to the ceremony [ source : Miss way ] . That ’s really the heart of the result ; a formal invitation is not a take - your - own - adventure arrangement . Some would argue that length or timing might make a trip to the receipt alone easier than a trip to the ceremonial too , but these are decisions you have to make , reassert and stick to well before the upshot . Not sure if you could make it in clip for the ceremony ? Either tell the bride and neaten the issue , and demand for a dispensation ( and be quick for them to not give you one ) , or just suck up it up , and say you ca n’t go .
This make for us to the RSVP . You well believe that if you confirmed you would be attending the ceremony and receipt , it would be incredibly ill-bred if you did n’t show up . Of course there are sudden sickness , family emergencies or even unbeatable traffic . Sure , life fall out , and if you are forced to cancel or arrive recently to a wedding ceremony reception , so be it . But just wanting to avoid the candle - lighting ceremony or the umpteenth heed to Pachelbel ’s " Canon in calciferol " is no excuse .
Some people want to avoid the ceremonial because they have an uncomfortable preceding relationship with one of the participant or merely do n’t know the couple well [ source : Bodgas ] . lease me just jubilantly go out on a tree branch here and say " get over it . " If you do n’t want to go to the wedding , do n’t just essay to show up for the freechampagne . If you do desire to go , accept the fact that it ’s an consequence on the master of ceremonies ’s term , not yours . An invitation , after all , is not an responsibility .
In short ? It ’s not about you , dear . Let the nice citizenry have the wedding they want , and suck it up to attend the ceremony if you’re able to . It will give you ample opportunity to practice another vulgar wedding custom : gossiping about things you did n’t wish behind the couple ’s back . Mazel tov to all .
